A Guest Post by Philip and Casey McCluskey
- Note from Victoria: There are lots of experts out there, but Philip and Casey walk the walk and know their stuff. I’m proud to offer this guest post from people I totally trust and deeply admire.
Have you ever felt compelled to keep stuffing yourself to the point of discomfort? Maybe you’ve found yourself reaching for a bag of cookies when you’re home alone, tired and lonely? Perhaps it’s even healthy foods you’ve overeaten, such as a pound of cashews. If so, you are one of many who have eaten for emotional reasons. I’ve found it to be the number one sabotaging factor for my clients in discovering their perfect weight.
Emotional and disordered eating can wreak havoc on your mental, emotional and physical health if left unaddressed, let alone the massive amount of time and energy it takes up, leaving you much less able to focus on what really matters in your life – your dreams, relationships, contributing, having fun.
Yet despite what your reason and intelligence tells you to do (i.e. give up the emotional eating), you are unable to stop yourself from doing it yet again.
Emotional eating can be a very challenging habit to release. In fact, it is typically the single biggest reason that people fail to lose the weight they’d like to. 95-98% of diets fail, and emotional eating is a key contributor to this discouraging statistic.
Here’s why it has such a hold:
· it can be a deeply ingrained behavior in you
· you have been doing it for a very long time both consciously and unconsciously
· it can be frightening to consider your life where you don’t numb yourself with food, even if it is a conscious choice you are making for your own wellbeing
· processed foods and junk foods are highly addictive so even without the emotional component they can be extremely hard to give up
· you are overwhelmed at how to start identifying and serving your emotional needs
· you haven’t cemented effective ways of addressing your emotions.
What is needed to break the cycle of emotional eating and its consequences for your health, happiness and energy, is support, compassion, guidance, kindness and a safe space of no judgement where you can release your fears, identify your emotions, triggers and what your real needs are, and then put in place a toolbox of strategies and methods to satisfy your emotional needs in a way that doesn’t require reaching for a chocolate bar.
With consistent application of these tools plus a supportive environment where you are guided gently but purposefully to heal and empower yourself, you can move from a damaged, painful relationship with food and your body to a joyful, liberated one. When you have been living in a heavy, toxic body with unaddressed, toxic emotions, achieving freedom and lightness in mind and body is truly priceless.
Below are a few suggestions from my Health, Hot & Energized program you can use to start creating your toolbox of strategies to overcome emotional eating.
1. Identify what’s really going on
If you eat without being truly hungry, you are emotionally eating. Yet most people don’t stop for long enough to really see what emotion they are actually feeling before they stuff it down with food. Train yourself to stop when you have the urge to eat and ask yourself “am I really hungry?” If the answer is no, ask yourself “what emotion am I really feeling?” This alone can bring so much awareness that it can start to make small shifts as you recognize that there is much more going on that just an uncontrollable urge to eat and that you will not actually be meeting that emotional need with food. This is not easy to do initially but it becomes much easier with practice, dedication and support from people who have been through this process before.
2. Find a safe place or person to release to
To heal your relationship with food you need to safely express yourself and release the emotion you feel. A safe place or person will allow you to do this. Online communities of like-minded people going through the same issues can help. There can be a lot of shame and embarrassment around overeating so a safe space to release becomes even more important.
Get into a journaling practice where you can write about whatever you are feeling with no talk back, criticism or judgement. Find a person, ideally a professional, who you can speak to about your behavior and about what’s really going on for you. Working with a coach and mentor can be key to assisting in expediting this release.
Create or find a space where you can go to be quiet, think, cry, laugh, journal, talk, meditate, hug yourself or whatever feels helpful to you. Having a space for yourself that you can always go to will give you a sense of comfort, nourishment, and familiarity; a haven as you heal.
3. Create a sacred ritual
One of the best ways to nourish yourself every day is to create a sacred ritual that makes you feel centered, strong and harmonious. When you include this ritual in your routine you will find that over time you are better able to identify and deal with thoughts, feelings and stress that contribute to emotional eating. What you include in your ritual is entirely up to you. For most people, one or a combination of the following works well:
· Meditation
· Deep breathing
· Affirmations
· Setting intentions
· Nourishing movement
· Yoga and stretching
· Journaling
· Drinking water or herbal tea mindfully
· Reading inspirational material
· Listening to music
· Speaking to a loved one
· Playing with your pets
· Having a hot bath or shower
· Resting
4. Understand and appreciate what food gives you
For many people who suffer from disordered eating patterns food is the enemy. It is the thing you stuff yourself with and make yourself feel sick with. It is the thing that traps you into eating copious quantities until you feel heavy, tired, unwell and miserable. It is what adds the pounds to your body that you despise. It is what you have to avoid at all costs to stay painfully thin because that’s what you see as beautiful or worthy or your way of maintaining a sense of control in your life.
For many of the women I work with, an important step in their healing is helping them to understand what food really is – how it gives life, nourishment, beauty, joy, pleasure, energy, healing and yes, comfort. Nourishing yourself with real, high quality whole foods that are not filled with chemicals, refined sugar, salts and fats, and learning how they act in your body to produce beauty, health and energy so you can do the things you wish to, can change your view of food as the enemy. Respect builds for the role food plays and in turn a respect for what it does within your body (and therefore your body itself) grows.
5. Unleash your creativity and do something you love every single day
You have endless creativity and passion with you, although it may be suppressed right now. When you don’t allow yourself to authentically express, create and be, you end up repressing yourself. Repression leads to out of control binges on food as a temporary way to numb that undirected energy. Find a way to build in some time every day to do something you love, that gives you a creative outlet for self expression, and that allows you to be exactly who you are or takes you a step closer to where you want to go. Before you start using the no time or energy excuse, know that you only need five minutes to start doing this. If you have more, that’s even better. If you are honoring your needs and desires by actually acting on them every day, you will be far less likely to look for the answer in a cake. Self-satisfaction and happiness comes with nourishing your whole being – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually – consistently.
Fortunately there’s an out for you…a way to be free from diets, failed resolutions to improve your body, and unrealistic pressure on yourself to be or do what you feel you should.
It’s not just recipes and menu pans you need to succeed, but a total change of mindset, strategies to overcome emotional eating, consistent and long term guidance and accountability from experts, and like minded others to share and connect with.
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In this free video training series, we will be giving you the exact steps in our new Healthy, Hot and Energized Action Plan so you can join us in feeling the freedom that comes with waking up knowing you feel vital and energetic, look your best and are giving your all to your relationships and passions. We will also share with you our Guaranteed Success Blueprint, which will show you how to maintain those results long-term. Basically ending dieting forever, and creating a life of purpose.
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About the authors:
Casey McCluskey, acclaimed Health and Life Coach, Author, Motivational Speaker and co-founder of the Get Juicy Cleanse as seen on CBS and Healthy, Hot and Energized,(insert your affiliate code in the bolded text before this box http://www.mcssl.com/app/?af=1509024) shows you how to get radiant health and energy, lose weight and heal naturally so that you can live the life you want in a body you love. Casey has helped thousands of people across the world achieve radiant, long lasting physical and emotional wellness via her international private coaching, guided group programs, health education and motivational speaking. If you’re ready to learn the 12 Key Steps To Optimal Health, visit www.vimergy.com now.